Yes. One year no less. On 29 September, to be exact. The day was sad, no doubt about that. I received several calls from family and friends. All I remember like it was yesterday. However, looking back, I think we'll overcome, one way or another. The proof is that now we talk about it all without complex. A Sergio will often say "Remember when Mom said?. The pain is giving way to remember more and more alive and more endearing that when she died Pilar. I can see videos that came her recent photographs, etc. I return to the blog after the summer parentheses.
"During adolescence, there is the character of the person," after a certain age, people do not change "... Are all phrases that we have ever heard, and that most of the time we have taken for certain, for dogmas of faith, those of which we considered not even valid, because we believe they are true.
people, change. You bet they change. I, without going any further, I have changed dramatically two years now, and I have no less to forty-eight years, so, or the dogma of faith is not entirely true, or not entirely true depending on what cases, or I'm a weirdo, which at this point in the film would cost me to assimilate, because I always considered a person more or less balanced and rather plain little.
Why am aware of my hand, if there was any?. Elizabeth Kubler-Ross defined very well in his book about grief and pain, "one of those books that I want ye never read, but I strongly recommend that if ever you see yourself immersed in a situation as painful as mine. The author speaks of the change occurring in people who have suffered the loss of a loved one. Suddenly, the problems of others seem silly compared to the loss has affected him. The death of a loved one is not just that, a terrible loss, but a brutal collision, direct, and stomach, knowing that we all have to die. That phrase, said well, do not say anything that has not seen a situation like that. A situation that touches us obliquely when death occurs is that of a close relative, we can be very painful, but that does not affect us much as our spouse, the person I had decided to share lifetime.
Things look differently when you acquire the knowledge that someday, sooner or later, you're going to meet with that person you've loved so much. We all believe in a sense immortal. When we hear on the radio the statistics of car accidents, of those affected by diseases, or those affected by natural disasters in the depths of our soul we are convinced that this is not going with us, we will take forever. Well, friends, at the loss of Pilar, that belief fades, and I have become aware that any day I can come to me. It's hard to assimilate, very hard, and I'm not sure that is capable of power explain the feeling of which I speak, but what I can assure you is that the scale of problems, or rather what we consider problems, undergoes a radical change. Many things that previously made me real uphill seem silly today.
This attitude can create gaps in our relationships with others, from the fact that, when someone has a problem (or a hypothetical problem, most of the time), I can build, albeit not deliberate, to not giving the importance that should give so that others perceive that the matter concerns me. It is difficult to explain. The truth is that rarely, even in the life of Pilar, I had a minimal awareness of what can be a problem, mostly because more or less all I have been solved, but now, after the tragedy, and the situation that we have suddenly been pushed my son and I, anything else seems unimportant, and the worst is that many times I can not hide it, or it costs me a lot. Anything that raises me, I have the habit of thinking fucking uncontrollably, "at least he is alive", which, although most of us do not seem so, because we consider ourselves immortal, is the most important I can assure you.
listen to my arguments about the couple, usually among the members of my family or couples. Are arguments to the air, dropped so that those who hear them give one reason or another. I've always done a certain grace that we have that need people around us give us the reason. Is not this really a bit absurd?. The first thing you have to give the reason one is yourself, and do not think you have to seek the approval of others, especially when others put them in the position of having to choose between one of two members the couple. No matter what is spoken. Any argument, pilgrim, can be justified with words (even the most intransigent Nazism was justified in the eyes of the people with arguments). On this basis, all that a couple take to the face is just a string of accusations, they will not go anywhere unless it is no longer broadcast. When it comes to the silences between a couple, it is dangerous, when in question, is always there, of course, respect of each other. The silences between couples are as dangerous as insults or humiliations. When you get to this point, it means that the relationship between the couple is dead. Then comes the divorce, in some cases, or abuse others, if one of the two partners is not strong enough to root out the relationship. But even when it reaches this point, there is always a possibility turning back. There is hope that one of the two changes, and realize the stupidity that has been setting aside a couple as wonderful as I had.
know not look down, and that often leads to dead ends that do not do anything to give us on the head, without being able to find a solution. Experiment seem mice in a maze of corridors that lead nowhere. That is something that more or less I'm starting to learn in these past two years. I stand at a point slightly above the problem and see its size and importance, most of the time is ridiculous. Sometimes I think about it, and wonder "what we do, Pilar?". Then I will always remember those "bah, nothing happens," Pilar let go with that strength his face any obstacles ahead touchdown. It was a luxury to share this pride philosophy of life, I assure you. Once I figure a post with that optimism that characterized it, that smile above all, the problem disappears, or at least I see it differently. I am also learning to not causing me problems, something that many couples also are used. They can create problems for the other attitude. We are very upset that the other is lying on the couch while we ironed, for example. We realize the other it also seems worthy, or that it is possible that you had a bad day at work, and we hide it so we are not depressed. In a situation like this, maybe the sensible thing is to ask "Is something wrong?" And give a little to his fatigue.
people, change. You bet they change. I, without going any further, I have changed dramatically two years now, and I have no less to forty-eight years, so, or the dogma of faith is not entirely true, or not entirely true depending on what cases, or I'm a weirdo, which at this point in the film would cost me to assimilate, because I always considered a person more or less balanced and rather plain little.
Why am aware of my hand, if there was any?. Elizabeth Kubler-Ross defined very well in his book about grief and pain, "one of those books that I want ye never read, but I strongly recommend that if ever you see yourself immersed in a situation as painful as mine. The author speaks of the change occurring in people who have suffered the loss of a loved one. Suddenly, the problems of others seem silly compared to the loss has affected him. The death of a loved one is not just that, a terrible loss, but a brutal collision, direct, and stomach, knowing that we all have to die. That phrase, said well, do not say anything that has not seen a situation like that. A situation that touches us obliquely when death occurs is that of a close relative, we can be very painful, but that does not affect us much as our spouse, the person I had decided to share lifetime.
Things look differently when you acquire the knowledge that someday, sooner or later, you're going to meet with that person you've loved so much. We all believe in a sense immortal. When we hear on the radio the statistics of car accidents, of those affected by diseases, or those affected by natural disasters in the depths of our soul we are convinced that this is not going with us, we will take forever. Well, friends, at the loss of Pilar, that belief fades, and I have become aware that any day I can come to me. It's hard to assimilate, very hard, and I'm not sure that is capable of power explain the feeling of which I speak, but what I can assure you is that the scale of problems, or rather what we consider problems, undergoes a radical change. Many things that previously made me real uphill seem silly today.
This attitude can create gaps in our relationships with others, from the fact that, when someone has a problem (or a hypothetical problem, most of the time), I can build, albeit not deliberate, to not giving the importance that should give so that others perceive that the matter concerns me. It is difficult to explain. The truth is that rarely, even in the life of Pilar, I had a minimal awareness of what can be a problem, mostly because more or less all I have been solved, but now, after the tragedy, and the situation that we have suddenly been pushed my son and I, anything else seems unimportant, and the worst is that many times I can not hide it, or it costs me a lot. Anything that raises me, I have the habit of thinking fucking uncontrollably, "at least he is alive", which, although most of us do not seem so, because we consider ourselves immortal, is the most important I can assure you.
listen to my arguments about the couple, usually among the members of my family or couples. Are arguments to the air, dropped so that those who hear them give one reason or another. I've always done a certain grace that we have that need people around us give us the reason. Is not this really a bit absurd?. The first thing you have to give the reason one is yourself, and do not think you have to seek the approval of others, especially when others put them in the position of having to choose between one of two members the couple. No matter what is spoken. Any argument, pilgrim, can be justified with words (even the most intransigent Nazism was justified in the eyes of the people with arguments). On this basis, all that a couple take to the face is just a string of accusations, they will not go anywhere unless it is no longer broadcast. When it comes to the silences between a couple, it is dangerous, when in question, is always there, of course, respect of each other. The silences between couples are as dangerous as insults or humiliations. When you get to this point, it means that the relationship between the couple is dead. Then comes the divorce, in some cases, or abuse others, if one of the two partners is not strong enough to root out the relationship. But even when it reaches this point, there is always a possibility turning back. There is hope that one of the two changes, and realize the stupidity that has been setting aside a couple as wonderful as I had.
know not look down, and that often leads to dead ends that do not do anything to give us on the head, without being able to find a solution. Experiment seem mice in a maze of corridors that lead nowhere. That is something that more or less I'm starting to learn in these past two years. I stand at a point slightly above the problem and see its size and importance, most of the time is ridiculous. Sometimes I think about it, and wonder "what we do, Pilar?". Then I will always remember those "bah, nothing happens," Pilar let go with that strength his face any obstacles ahead touchdown. It was a luxury to share this pride philosophy of life, I assure you. Once I figure a post with that optimism that characterized it, that smile above all, the problem disappears, or at least I see it differently. I am also learning to not causing me problems, something that many couples also are used. They can create problems for the other attitude. We are very upset that the other is lying on the couch while we ironed, for example. We realize the other it also seems worthy, or that it is possible that you had a bad day at work, and we hide it so we are not depressed. In a situation like this, maybe the sensible thing is to ask "Is something wrong?" And give a little to his fatigue.
been a year.
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